Wednesday, November 22, 2017

Nursery Tour



When Delilah was born more than three weeks early, we were most certainly not prepared to be taking home a baby, in many ways. One being that the nursery was unfinished, with art and decor still left to be hung and organized, as well as piles of baby clothes and linens scattered on the floor waiting to be washed, folded and sorted. Thankfully, while we were in the hospital, my sweet best friend spent an afternoon taking care of the latter. And fortunately, babies don't tend to sleep in their nurseries right away. (She's been snoozing in a bassinet at my bedside.) Nevertheless, I wanted to get the room buttoned up, to complete the nesting process. After ordering a few more things off my want list and finding a couple hours to get everything just so, Delilah's nursery is done! Part of me hesitates to say done, because I'm the type of person who is never really finished when it comes to decorating. (My husband will attest.) While there are a couple more pieces I'd like to add to the room, I am feeling pleased with how it's turned out thus far and I'm ready to share. 

When designing Delilah's nursery, my goal was to create a cheerful and child-friendly space that still felt stylish and in keeping with the aesthetic Greg and I enjoy, since we'll be in the room just as much as our daughter! The desert theme is reflective of our Southern California roots and my unending love for succulents and cacti. The color palette is engaging but still soft and feminine. The overall vibe is eclectic. There's a mid-century modern sensibility, as seen in the larger furniture pieces (crib, dresser, rocking chair, bookcase). But I wanted to warm up those simple, clean lines with natural, rustic elements (wood, jute) and imagery that brings the outdoors in. A colorful tilework-inspired rug and large watwercolor-esque tapestry, along with a rattan mirror and yarn dreamcatcher, lend a bohemian spirit. Meanwhile, funky accessories including a handmade bird mobile and slightly kitschy cactus lamp add a dash of whimsy to the room.

Without further ado, here's a few photos if you'd like to see... and a source list at the end for those who are interested! (You can also check out my inspiration for the room here.)











Source List

Cactus lamp (new color online)
Cactus pillow (from Urban Outfitters, out of stock)
Modern bohemian dreamcatcher, by DayCrafter (similar)

Sunday, November 19, 2017

The Post-Bump Bumpdate: Third Trimester, Weeks 31-36


Even though our daughter is here, I thought I’d take a quick look back on the final weeks of my pregnancy. I had planned to do another “bumpdate” once I was on maternity leave and had a bit more free time, but of course we know how that turned out! 

Childhood friends.

At the time of my last pregnancy update, I was on my way to Southern California for a babymoon with my hubby in Pismo Beach, followed by my baby shower! I was 30 weeks pregnant and feeling good — “pretty normal” is what I kept telling people who asked how I was feeling. And in the five or so weeks that followed, not much changed. Pregnancy really treated me well. I was starting to slow down a bit at work; squatting became more of a challenge and my feet, or I should say the bump, didn’t want me to move quite as quickly sometimes. But because I hadn’t gained all that much weight — topping out at about 17 or 18 pounds at week 36 — I was still sleeping fine (no crazy pillow needed) and I didn’t have any aches or pains (besides my sore feet from working retail in heels!).

Babymooning in Pismo Beach at 30 weeks pregnant.

With my bestie at my baby shower, 31 weeks pregnant.

The only troubling or out-of-the-ordinary thing I experienced happened on Sept. 22, when we rang in 32 weeks with a bit of a scare that led to me leaving work and going to Labor & Delivery for evaluation. I had just finished my first bridal appointment of the day and while saying my goodbyes to the bride and her mom I felt a little something “leak” out. I honestly didn’t think much of it. I thought it might have been a bit of pee actually and figured I just needed to go to the bathroom. (Babies like to press on bladders!) I was so unworried that I spent another five minutes or so cleaning up my gowns and chatting with my coworkers before I finally headed to the ladies room. When I wiped I saw a scary surprise — bright red blood. 

Naturally I freaked out, though I tried to maintain some composure since I was at work. Standing in a corner of my store, right outside the restroom, trying to be inconspicuous as shoppers walked around me, I called my OB’s office and spoke in hushed tones. I was put on hold while the nurse conferred with a midwife and I remaining relatively calm until the nurse got back on the line and told me that I should go to L&D to get checked out. That’s when the crying started. I hadn’t even been to the hospital yet! I didn’t know where L&D was! Am I really going to Labor & Delivery today? What is happening, what does the blood mean? Is baby OK, is she going to stay put? All these thoughts were running through my head. 

To make matters worse, my husband had decided to drive to about an hour south to San Jose that morning to go pick up a car seat. I texted Greg while I was on the phone with the OB to let him know that if he was on his way to San Jose to turn around. He hadn’t gotten to San Jose yet but he was farther away from me and baby than he would have liked to have been at that moment and he was freaking out too, especially as he battled Silicon Valley traffic to get to the hospital in Walnut Creek.

So I drove myself to the hospital, which luckily is only about 10 minutes away from my work, and when I checked in at L&D I was a teary, anxious mess. Fortunately, my doctor was actually there (to perform a c-section as it turns out… foreshadowing?) and when he came up to me at the check-in desk I immediately grabbed him and hugged him. I think it was comforting to see a familiar face. I was then taken into a room and hooked up to monitors to track baby’s heart rate and any uterine contractions. As it turned out, I was having some mild contractions, many of which I couldn’t feel and those that I could felt just like pressure. But baby girl’s heartbeat tracings were perfect. It wasn’t long before Greg ran into the room, panicked as he scrambled to my side, and the nurse told him not to worry, to take a breath, that baby and I were fine. 

Forcing a smile during my unexpected trip to Labor & Delivery at 32 weeks pregnant.

I spent about three hours that afternoon being monitored, and I was given medication to calm my uterus. In the end, there wasn’t a definitive reason for the bleeding but the doctor’s best guess was that the intestinal troubles (read: very frequent and soft bowel movements) I had been dealing with for about a week may have irritated my uterus, causing it to contract and, perhaps because of my low-lying placenta, expel blood. All in all, it seemed like a minor and isolated incident. But out of an abundance of caution, I was put on modified bedrest for the following week.

One of the last ultrasound captures of our baby girl.

Speaking of low-lying placentas, that brings us to the only other issue I faced in pregnancy. At my 20-week (almost 21-week) anatomy scan on July 6, Greg and I learned that my placenta was located too close to my cervix and that it needed to move at least 2 centimeters away in order for me to give birth vaginally. When we checked again two months later, on Sept. 7, the placenta hadn’t shifted much. Then, on Oct. 5, an ultrasound revealed good news — and bad news. The good news was my placenta had moved the requisite 2 centimeters! There was no longer a placental reason for a c-section. However, baby girl — who had been perfectly positioned four weeks before — was now Frank breech. Her head up by my ribs, her little bottom down by my pelvis, her legs kicked up in front of her face, by her hands. My hope at that point was that she would turn on her own, especially since I was back at work and moving around again after nine days of bedrest.

No such luck though. At my OB checkup on Oct. 20, baby was still breech. Since I was 36 weeks pregnant, the chances that she would flip on her own were slim to none. Baby girl was starting to outgrow her cramped quarters and my amniotic fluid would only decrease in the weeks ahead, giving her even less wiggle room. I had already read up on external cephalic version — a procedure in which the baby’s position in the womb is manipulated manually, from the outside — and my midwife recommended that we schedule one for the following Monday if I still wanted a shot at a vaginal delivery.

As you know, what happened next is not what anyone expected! Stay tuned for Delilah’s birth story.

In the meantime, a few photos from my last weeks of pregnancy…

33 weeks pregnant.

34 weeks and 5 days pregnant.

The last bump photo I snapped, at 35 weeks and 3 days pregnant.

Friday, November 17, 2017

Due Date


Happy due date to this little unicorn! My November baby turned October surprise. It's strange to think that I would have been (should have been?) 40 weeks pregnant today. In all honesty, there have been many times I've wished I still was pregnant, not just for me but for my daughter. I would have loved to keep her in my womb a bit longer, to finish growing and developing in the safety of that cocoon instead of the stressful environment we call earth. It wasn't meant to be. Oh, sweet Delilah Wren. You arrived 25 days early and flipped our world upside down, for sure, but in the very best way.

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Interestingly enough, Nov. 17 is also World Prematurity Day. Born at 36 weeks + 4 days, Delilah was a "late preterm" baby. While not severely premature, she did experience several issues because of her early arrival (low blood sugar levels, moderate jaundice, significant weight loss, reflux/trouble clearing her airway, "desatting" a couple times…), all of which necessitated a four-day stint in the NICU. Those were long, hard days and nights and yet I know we had it so much easier than other preemie families. So today, I want to give a shout out to all the warrior babies (and their mommies and daddies) who are currently fighting in the NICU, and the families who remember those harrowing days all too well. And I want to send special thanks to the doctors and nurses who give focused, round-the-clock care to those tiny, precious bundles — while also doing their best to reassure the nerve-wracked parents. We are so grateful to the medical team that took care of our girl in the days after her sudden birth, for doing all they could to make sure she was not only healthy but thriving — and ready to go home.

Monday, November 6, 2017

Hello, Baby! Introducing Delilah Wren




Delilah Wren
born October 23, 2017 at 6:08 p.m.
weighing 5 pounds, 9 ounces
measuring 18.25" long


The past two weeks have been a whirlwind, to say the least. Much to our surprise, Greg and I welcomed our precious daughter, Delilah Wren, into the world on Monday, Oct. 23 via an emergency c-section. Our November baby decided to be an October baby (her birthday is just a week after daddy's!). She was born at 36 weeks + 4 days.

To say we were shocked and unprepared would be an understatement; I delivered her the very first day of my maternity leave. She didn't want to wait any longer apparently, or give her type-A mother the time she had banked on to get all her proverbial rubber duckies in a row. Delilah threw us our first curveball of parenthood! Nice one, little girl. At home, we didn't have the right size clothes, the nursery was in a disarray, we didn't even have a place for you to sleep (don't worry, we got one!). But we did have the most important thing we could ever provide for you: LOVE. We may not have been quite yet ready for your arrival, but we've loved you forever — since before you were conceived, since you were a dream in our hearts. We had already fallen head over heels when you were an embryo in the lab, and seeing you in the flesh was, well — words can't even express the joy. The tearful elation. The height of love. And it is that everlasting adoration for you that has and will continue to carry us through the hard moments, the long days and nights, as we adjust to parenthood and to living as a family of three. Plus two fur siblings, of course. They already love their baby sister, too.

I'll share the full birth story eventually (update: part I here!), but for now I'll leave you with a few more peeks at miss Delilah's beautiful, sweet, sleepy face.



Sunday, October 8, 2017

In Full Bloom: A Shower for Baby T



Last month, Greg and I traveled from the Bay down south to our hometown of Simi Valley for my baby shower. The big event was held Sept. 16, when I was 31 weeks pregnant. My best friend since third grade (that's 24 years!), Marielle, planned the whole thing and it could not have been more beautiful. The theme, the decor, the food... everything was perfection and suited me and Baby T to a, well, T! In every detail I could tell how much time, energy and love went into the execution of what was such a wonderful and memorable day. I am so thankful to have a friend like Marielle who, along with a couple helpful family members, carefully crafted and curated a shower that was lovelier than I could have imagined. And I'm also grateful to everyone who came out to celebrate this joyous time and the sweet blessing the hubby and I have been given. Baby Thilgen was definitely spoiled and added many new clothes to her wardrobe :) 

Without further ado, I'd like to share a collection of snapshots from the day. As always, thank you for your continued support of us, this pregnancy, and our baby girl.














Family photos after the jump...

Sunday, September 10, 2017

Pregnancy Update: Second/Third Trimester, Weeks 26-30


^^^ Same night, same bump, at 27 weeks. ^^^


This bumpdate is a bit overdue… I’m actually writing it as the hubby and I make our way down to Southern California for a much-needed vacation, that is bookended by two joyous events. We’ll babymoon in Pismo for several days but first up is my best friend’s daughter’s first birthday party (which, as of finally posting, was yesterday!) and the following weekend we will celebrate Baby T at my baby shower.

Baby’s size: At 30 weeks (can you believe it?! only 10 weeks left!), baby is estimated to be 15.7 inches long and weighs around 3 pounds — about the size of a large cabbage, or a butternut squash. I had an ultrasound on Thursday and the technician measured Baby T to be 3 lbs 4 oz, with a strong heartbeat of 145 bpm.

Weight gained: Just about 12-13 pounds. Still relatively low (or, at least, lower than my and other’s expectations) but every medical professional I ask assures me that baby and I are A-OK! And they tell me to enjoy it :)

Fur baby and the baby bump. 27 weeks.

Symptoms & Sleep Status: Really good! Looking back on the second trimester, and even the first, I’ve had a fairly easy pregnancy, for which I feel so grateful. Getting pregnant was not as easy as for me as it is for most, so I consider it a gift that I’ve been able to enjoy being pregnant with no major aches, pains or other issues that would otherwise make carrying this child an unpleasant process. I’m able to work, sleep, eat and generally go about my life much as I normally would.

Movement: I’m so happy to report that I’ve been feeling Baby Girl quite frequently now! She is still most active in the morning and evening, as well as after I eat,  but I’ll notice her even during the middle of the day while I’m at work. I’ll be talking to a bride or entering notes and she’ll give me a kick — somewhat distracting, but no complaints here. I’ll take every kick, jab, roll and squirm she can dish out. Though, I will say that sometimes it feels like there is a wriggly little worm in my belly and it is the oddest but most wonderful feeling.

Rocking my maternity leggings in the mess that is (or, will be) the nursery. 27 weeks.

Currently living in: Not much has changed on the wardrobe front. Almost everything still fits since I’ve always been a flowy dress kind of gal. I’ve been on the lookout for more fitted pieces though, since at this point I really want to show off the bump!

Baby/pregnancy-related purchases: The biggest recent purchase is a rocking chair for the nursery. A mid-century style rocker that I’d had my eye on finally came back in stock so I jumped on it. The chair is similar to the Nursery Works Sleepytime Rocker that I loved but it has a higher back (that is hopefully more comfortable for tall folks like me who may want to rest their weary heads) and a lower price. Fingers crossed I like it when it arrives since I ordered it online and wasn’t able to try it out.

What I miss: Not much, and nothing I haven’t mentioned before. Wine, eggs benny… Things that I would give up again and again just to feel my little one kick.

What I’m loving: This is obvious: Feeling my daughter moving and growing inside me.

One for you and one for me. So hard shopping for other mama's babies
and not getting something for your own!

Looking forward to: My baby shower! I know my best friend has put so much time and energy into planning something special and memorable for me, and I can’t wait to celebrate Baby T with my friends and family.

Best moment of the week/month: There have been several highlights but one is my thoughtful coworkers showing me so much kindness and support and showering me with beautiful gifts for baby girl.

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A few more photos from the past few weeks:


28 weeks + 3 days: A Sunday fun day at the Presidio of San Francisco.

Me and my (3!) babies in the San Francisco sunshine, enjoying the Presidio Picnic.

28 weeks: Morning cup of decaf with the bump.

30 weeks + 2 days: A rare shot of me in a bikini,
taken at my best friend's daughter's birthday party yesterday.

A recent peek at our little one, during an ultrasound on Sept. 7 (a day shy of 30 weeks).
She loves to hide her face with her hands!

Sunday, August 6, 2017

Pregnancy Update: Second Trimester, Weeks 21-25

At work: 22 weeks + 2 days

Baby’s size: At 25 weeks + 3 days, Baby Girl weighs over a pound and a half — the size of a rutabaga! — and she is about 9 inches long from crown to rump, or 13.5 inches from head to heel.

Weight gained: I’ve only gained about 2 pounds since week 20. I’m up a total of 10-11 pounds since becoming pregnant. Since I was told that the benchmark is to gain 10 pounds by week 20 and then a pound a week after that, I was worrying (once again) that my weight gain has been too slow or minimal. But I had a checkup with the OB on Thursday (at 24w7d) and I was told all is looking well! The nurse measured my fundal height (for the first time) and it was 23 cm. She said they like to see it within one or two centimeters of how far along you are, so 23 cm at almost 25 weeks is normal. While my bump still looks smaller in the morning, it definitely feels bigger/fuller/heavier in the evening, especially after working (and eating!) all day. 

Symptoms wise, I’m feeling: Fortunately, I still feel pretty good. I have been experiencing a bit of uncomfortable pressure in my lower abdomen at the end of my shifts, which I attribute to rushing around on my feet all day. (That retail/bridal stylist life!) There have been a few times I’ve had to slow down my pace because I’m feeling a bit of pain. And last night, after driving home, I felt super uncomfortable when I stepped out of the car to walk inside the house. I actually had to lay down with my pups for 15-20 minutes before feeling OK to take them outside for a potty break. 

Other than that, not too many new symptoms to report. Well, I’ve had a bit of intestinal trouble the last week or two, but I’ll spare you the details! It’s typical pregnancy stuff, though. One funny symptom that I didn’t mention in my last update is… hiccups! Not the baby hiccuping, but me! Luckily it isn’t a constant thing, just the random hiccup or two now and then. I’m guessing it is from my organs being shifted upwards by the baby.

The countless trips to the bathroom continue — I don’t think that will change anytime soon. But the good news is the weird, rash-like red bumps I was getting on my face seem to have disappeared. And my hair has  inexplicably been easier to care for! I can go much longer than usual without washing and it still looks nice. I know I need to enjoy this perk now since I’ve heard postpartum hair loss is common.

Sleep status: I’ve been a bit of an insomniac lately. I just don’t feel tired at 10 or 11 p.m. Probably because I get home from work so late (around 8 or 9) and because I have so much on my mind, but I know going to bed after midnight or later isn’t ideal. I’m working on it!

Movement: I’m so overjoyed to feel Baby Girl moving around quite frequently now. Two nights ago, laying in bed, she was really moving and grooving — it felt like she was flailing around, moving her hands and feet at the same time! I was feeling movements all over my belly. She’s definitely most active at night and sometimes in the morning, but I have occasionally felt her during the day at work too. A bit distracting when I’m talking to a bride, but I love it! Usually all the moving around I do at work lulls her to sleep. But on my days off, like today, when I’m sitting on the couch, I feel her little kicks now and then.

Food love: I’m strangely into PB&J lately, which is so not like me. I’ve been having a toasted peanut butter and jelly sandwich most mornings for breakfast.

Food hate: Still not feeling excited about fish, but when the hubby makes salmon I eat as much as I can because I know it is good for the baby!

With my fur baby: 23 weeks

Currently living in: Same as before, dresses at work and leggings at home. I did order a few items from PinkBlush — two casual dresses for my days off and a pair of maternity leggings — but they haven’t arrived yet.

Baby/pregnancy-related purchases: Several things for the nursery! A baby monitor. A potential going home outfit. And a labor and delivery gown.

What I miss: Other than the very rare craving for wine, the only other thing that I sometimes wish I could have is a turkey sandwich. But a cooked chicken breast sandwich is just fine, too.

What I’m loving: Feeling the baby kick! And the fact that the registry is pretty much complete. I can move on to planning/researching other things :)

Looking forward to: Having my hubby home. Greg has been “deployed” the last two weeks. Not deployed far, just about 45 minutes away, but he isn’t able to come home. He was driving home in the afternoons at first, to let the dogs out and hang with me for an hour or two after work before driving back to the base to sleep, but the gas bills were adding up. He should be home on Tuesday, but then he’s headed to San Diego for a week next Sunday.

Best moment of the week/month: At the beginning of July, finding out that Baby T is a girl! Hitting the viability milestone at 24 weeks. Seeing my bump grow, slowly but surely. And getting to hear her heartbeat again at our last checkup. She stays consistent, at 156 bpm.

Side by side: Comparing my first bump photo to my most recent at almost 25 weeks